Sunday, June 12, 2011

How to Know When You're Ready for #2

I'm 10 weeks out from D-Day.
I'm pretty sure no one, including myself, really thought the day a #2 would be announced would ever really happen.

If you've been around this blog for any period of time, a common theme of mine has been my struggle with motherhood.
If this is your first time here, I should clarify- my struggle has never been with my son, it's
I think the odds are inevitably stacked against you if you
a) SURPRISE-got knocked up.
b) have no close circle friends with kids & you're the pioneer
c) will be a working mom when you don't want to be OR it's NEVER been done before in your family...as in, EVER

Mix those ingredients all together, and you get a...mess/disaster/self destructive catastrophe.

So, it appears I got over it, right?
I mean, I DID elect to shoot for the moon and add another one, right?!

I'm not sure I'm actually over any of the things that I struggled with the first go round but two things are different:
1: We planned this one (more accurately, we worked for this one).
2: I'm not the only one in the friend circle with a kid any more - I am just the only one going on #2 (crap)

How did I know I was ready?
I don't think I am ;)
We just knew that we wanted our son to have a sibling & we wanted our kids to be close in age.
There's a larger gap between #1 & #2 then we anticipated but, there's that little truth:
"We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps." Proverbs 16:9

Here's the difference between going from 0-1 then going from 1-2:
I'm not stupid this time.

I know what to expect in this rodeo & I know it ain't all magic & rainbows--
It's stitches, gauze panties, leaky boobs, sleepless nights, a whole lot of emotional break downs, & some damn good sweetness, too.
This time, there's a bit of apprehension:
crap: how do I divide in two (aside from physically, cuz I know how that one works!)? how will I get one kid to work with me and pick one up when my work day is done? how do I get in and out of a grocery store with a toddler & a newborn?
(Ok, now I have to stop putting the questions out here in the universe because I'm giving myself contractions.)

All this to say, for me, I don't think there ever IS a ready for #2.
There wasn't even a ready for #1.
It's just a choice, and you make it, and you do it.
You have your good moments & your bad ones.
You have your smiles & you have your tears.

I must say though, I am super excited to meet this little one!
I'm excited to finally have a name, to put the room together but I'm also taking the time to savor what's left of my time with my son.
Oh the journey....

5 comments:

  1. I'm excited for you as well. Everyone told me that the transition from 1-2 was so hard. But, I thought the transition from 0-1 was WAAAAAAY harder. Blessings to you and I hope your transition is smooth and precious.

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  2. I can relate a bit to this! Our #2 was a surprise, and I had two under two for a few months. The transition from 0-1 was easier for me than 1-2. Mostly because I had an extra arm free for 1 baby, and they were both in use for 2. ;) But now, it's great. I love it. I love what this lady had to say about going from 1-2 http://babycoverspage.blogspot.com/2011/06/i-often-wondered-how-my-heart-would.html
    Love not divided, but multiplied. You will love it!

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  3. I love you! I think anytime you add a kid to your family things get a good shake up. I'm praying for you and your #2 and I can't WAIT for you to meet him too! Ash is going to be such an amazing big brother. I'm also praying that somehow I figure out how to balance #1, #2, and a #3! Eeek... Love definitely multiplies - thats for sure. Its amazing how God made our hearts work. :)

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  4. You ad such a fabulous mother!!!!! And your little #2 is a very lucky child and will have a terrific big brother!!!!! What I've loved about being a mother is how each child had changed me.... Made me a better person, has taught me more then I could ever teach them.... Can't wait to hear when hour sweet bundle arrives!! Blessings to you on the final stretch of hour pregnancy!!!
    xo,
    LuLu

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  5. Hi Allegra! I was happy to see your comment on my blog and made my way over here. This post really resonated with me. It is true for me too. I don't think I was ready for number 1 and I certainly was not ready for number 2 - but we did make that decision each time and then we rolled with it. I might never feel balanced again, might never get back to "normal" but I'm wildly happy. Well, most of the time. Thanks for your honesty.

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