Sunday, June 12, 2011

How to Know When You're Ready for #2

I'm 10 weeks out from D-Day.
I'm pretty sure no one, including myself, really thought the day a #2 would be announced would ever really happen.

If you've been around this blog for any period of time, a common theme of mine has been my struggle with motherhood.
If this is your first time here, I should clarify- my struggle has never been with my son, it's
I think the odds are inevitably stacked against you if you
a) SURPRISE-got knocked up.
b) have no close circle friends with kids & you're the pioneer
c) will be a working mom when you don't want to be OR it's NEVER been done before in your in, EVER

Mix those ingredients all together, and you get a...mess/disaster/self destructive catastrophe.

So, it appears I got over it, right?
I mean, I DID elect to shoot for the moon and add another one, right?!

I'm not sure I'm actually over any of the things that I struggled with the first go round but two things are different:
1: We planned this one (more accurately, we worked for this one).
2: I'm not the only one in the friend circle with a kid any more - I am just the only one going on #2 (crap)

How did I know I was ready?
I don't think I am ;)
We just knew that we wanted our son to have a sibling & we wanted our kids to be close in age.
There's a larger gap between #1 & #2 then we anticipated but, there's that little truth:
"We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps." Proverbs 16:9

Here's the difference between going from 0-1 then going from 1-2:
I'm not stupid this time.

I know what to expect in this rodeo & I know it ain't all magic & rainbows--
It's stitches, gauze panties, leaky boobs, sleepless nights, a whole lot of emotional break downs, & some damn good sweetness, too.
This time, there's a bit of apprehension:
crap: how do I divide in two (aside from physically, cuz I know how that one works!)? how will I get one kid to work with me and pick one up when my work day is done? how do I get in and out of a grocery store with a toddler & a newborn?
(Ok, now I have to stop putting the questions out here in the universe because I'm giving myself contractions.)

All this to say, for me, I don't think there ever IS a ready for #2.
There wasn't even a ready for #1.
It's just a choice, and you make it, and you do it.
You have your good moments & your bad ones.
You have your smiles & you have your tears.

I must say though, I am super excited to meet this little one!
I'm excited to finally have a name, to put the room together but I'm also taking the time to savor what's left of my time with my son.
Oh the journey....


  1. I'm excited for you as well. Everyone told me that the transition from 1-2 was so hard. But, I thought the transition from 0-1 was WAAAAAAY harder. Blessings to you and I hope your transition is smooth and precious.

  2. I can relate a bit to this! Our #2 was a surprise, and I had two under two for a few months. The transition from 0-1 was easier for me than 1-2. Mostly because I had an extra arm free for 1 baby, and they were both in use for 2. ;) But now, it's great. I love it. I love what this lady had to say about going from 1-2
    Love not divided, but multiplied. You will love it!

  3. I love you! I think anytime you add a kid to your family things get a good shake up. I'm praying for you and your #2 and I can't WAIT for you to meet him too! Ash is going to be such an amazing big brother. I'm also praying that somehow I figure out how to balance #1, #2, and a #3! Eeek... Love definitely multiplies - thats for sure. Its amazing how God made our hearts work. :)

  4. You ad such a fabulous mother!!!!! And your little #2 is a very lucky child and will have a terrific big brother!!!!! What I've loved about being a mother is how each child had changed me.... Made me a better person, has taught me more then I could ever teach them.... Can't wait to hear when hour sweet bundle arrives!! Blessings to you on the final stretch of hour pregnancy!!!

  5. Hi Allegra! I was happy to see your comment on my blog and made my way over here. This post really resonated with me. It is true for me too. I don't think I was ready for number 1 and I certainly was not ready for number 2 - but we did make that decision each time and then we rolled with it. I might never feel balanced again, might never get back to "normal" but I'm wildly happy. Well, most of the time. Thanks for your honesty.